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Baggage weighing you down? Start the new year light as a feather.

What if you had made that one career move you’ve always wondered about? Spoken up more at last week’s meeting? Been less critical on that first date? Waited for him to initiate the relationship talk?

Like many people, you may be familiar with several nagging what-ifs. Sometimes, they may even seem to run like a soundtrack through the back of your mind, never letting you fully relax into your true self.

It’s time to let them go — now, for 2021. To help you, I’m blogging on the…

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As a clinical psychologist in New York City who works with some of the city’s most professionally motivated and strategic social climbers (most won’t admit it until they’re safely ensconced in a confidential session at my office), it’s no surprise that many clients want to brush up on their networking skills. My clients are intelligent, driven people who want to get the best return on investment on the time and effort spent at networking events.

An important starting point is to recognize that social norms are different at networking events. For example, although it is generally perceived as intrusive to…

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Tips and tools for making the most out of this holiday season!

The holidays are a time for celebration and togetherness, but they can also be a time of increased stress. This holiday season, we are dealing with extra challenges, as COVID issues may prevent many of us from celebrating together in our normal way.

The good news is that these challenges don’t need to derail our holidays, and they may even represent an opportunity for increased closeness or changes that we’ll ultimately value! In this two-part blog series, I will dive into tips and suggestions for how you can stay centered, build new rituals, and honor different family boundaries. …

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Breakups can be brutal. Here’s what you need to know!

We all know breakups can be incredibly painful. As a clinical psychologist who works with high functioning people, I know that if you’re an intelligent and persistent person who likes to make things work, it can be mind-boggling to encounter a situation where no matter how much you want to make things work, the only thing to do is actually to give up and move on. …

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Anger management isn’t always about staying quiet. Source Image by Khosrork on iStock

This approach may surprise you, but it’s effective.

Tanya didn’t exactly seem like a stereotypical anger management client: she was polished, polite, and successful. Not the sort of person you’d imagine losing their temper or having a wild outburst. To her credit, Tanya actually didn’t have wild outbursts of anger. She was more prone to sardonic snipes, passive aggression, and fits of quiet, seething contempt that she didn’t know how to process.

“I try to tell myself to just forget things, take a deep breath, and not get so upset,” she said, “But sometimes it just doesn’t work.”

What Tanya…

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As a yoga teacher-turned-psychologist, I’ve always been amazed at the overlap between psychology and yoga, specifically in mindfulness and in silence. One yogic practice that I find fantastic as a psychologist is intentional and compassionate silence. Whether you are in a relationship or currently single and living alone, you might feel some sort of pressure to always answer the phone, constantly make small talk with a partner, or always have “something interesting” to say. …

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Quarantine life has been called “the new normal” over the past couple of months. Although it may be “normal” in the sense that it’s become common, it is understandably not feeling at all normal to us in terms of our wellbeing: in fact, quarantine life can pose some very unique challenges. While I can’t take that stress away, as a clinical psychologist I can offer some practical tips to handle quarantine life from a cognitive, behavioral, and emotional perspective. Some of the tips I offer will be exercises or other behaviors you can try, and some of them will be…

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In Part 1 of this blog series on toxic people, I outlined how to see when you may have a toxic person in your life. If you think you may have one, please know that you have the power to set boundaries for your own wellbeing! To keep it simple, you can use the acronym TOXIC to remember a list of options you might consider.

T.O.X.I.C.:

Table it: While certain things might automatically mean “canceling” a person (such as physical violence), other things might be harder to judge, especially if they seem out of character for the person. …

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In an ideal world, all of the people in your life would be helpful resources, willingly by your side to provide support, add joy, and keep you balanced. But let’s face it: We don’t live in an ideal world (if we did, I’d probably be out of a job!). Most of us will encounter at least one person in our day-to-day at some point in our lives who does the opposite. Someone who drains your energy, undermines you, puts you down. I’ve recently been asked to speak about the topic of “toxic people” by FOX5 here in New York, and…

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Dr. Chloe has worked successfully with single men and women who are searching for a partner. Common issues include struggling with a breakup, trying to begin dating more, or learning how to set boundaries. These issues are normal. Having a fulfilling romantic relationship is an extremely healthy and rewarding part of life. If you are experiencing challenges here, please don’t be hard on yourself.Sessions for singles will focus on defining the type of relationship you want, as well as discussing strategies to obtain it. …

Dr. Chloe Carmichael

Clinical psychologist | Founder of Carmichael Psychology | TV commentator | Specializes in #anxiety, #dating, #relationships and #goals | www.DrChloe.com/blog

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